Deceit online dating
Then he courted me again,,,we fall in love and start a new relationship.
Finished contract and looking for a new job here in Uae.My point in all of this is that if you withdraw, you will most likely get him to put in more effort, but that will only take you so far.Ultimately, if you want a relationship to be as you want it to be, you need to be true to what you really want.While a girl could get me to put in more effort by withdrawing a bit, I am ultimately not looking for a relationship and my effort is only going to go so far. I’ve been successfully manipulated into relationships too.In the end, they’ve failed because I knew in my mind, heart and gut that it wasn’t what I wanted and as much as I tried to numb myself into wanting the relationship, I couldn’t kid myself.Many nights and days that I always see myself in tears. Too much questions into me which I don’t know what to do,, I am not asking his whole time but why like this? My present boyfriend told me that even though he kept a relationship with his previous girlfriend for 6 years, he eventually broke up with her because she was too distant and rarely had time for him.
I give him enough space he wants but still same like this everyday. He spoiled me with love and care and now he suddenly changed. In my previous relationship it happened the same that I was too distant and my boyfriend eventually broke up with me, saying that he is tired of waiting for my commitment.
Well that time I don’t have any plan to open my heart again.
First is we became friends but he told me in the first place he like me a lot but he respect me so much.
I’m not looking for that and when that starts coming up, I scale my presence in her life back considerably – I don’t want things to turn into a relationship and therefore I withdraw. I’ve pushed her away and now I’m going to lose her. my goal being that I’d like to return to “stasis” – that perfect sweet spot of comfortable company and sexual satisfaction without having to tie myself down to any relationship.
Then, inevitably, the girl starts to get upset, frustrated, confused, etc. My point here: My goal is to maintain the stage before exclusivity and relationship happens. I’m clear on this and it’s practical for where I am in my life right now.
And when he miss me and cannot see each other-he even make vid call in whats App.