Dating the godly way
When a couple breaks up after having had sexual relations, there is inevitable pain because of the severing of this bond.
Youth need instruction early as to why and how biblical values can protect them from such suffering.They are also the building blocks of communities, societies and, ultimately, civilizations. Though the Bible gives no specific age when dating is appropriate, wise parents will teach their maturing children sound biblical principles that will help them follow God’s standards of behavior.A society is only as strong as its marriages and families. Parents should determine when their children are ready to date based on their maturity and readiness to accept responsibility for their actions.No responsible parent would put his or her adolescent child in an automobile in the middle of a busy highway without having given that child instruction on how to drive.Dating in our world is not without its dangers either.Without this instruction, many young people make mistakes that hinder their potential for having a happy marriage.
Loving parents would never wish misery on their children, but leaving them ignorant is a sure path to heartache.
Many assume that when people are dating, sexual intercourse is an appropriate demonstration of affection and a way to determine whether they are compatible.
They believe that sex is simply a natural expression of love between two people and therefore the normal thing to do when individuals are “going together” or living together in an exclusive relationship.
The foundation for a good marriage is laid long before the wedding ceremony. Before parents allow dating, they should teach and encourage their children to follow biblical standards rather than turning them loose to do whatever comes naturally.
When we first begin dating, it should be for the purpose of social development-that is, learning about the opposite sex and the many differences in human personality, values and temperament.
Teaching young people God’s standards before allowing them to date may sound terribly old-fashioned and restrictive.